Thank you! I do feel a bit better today on how I'm handling things. And thank you for your continued encouragement and help!
Yes, I like the idea of the DB people being right there to whisper in my ear. That actually happened several times just this morning when I wanted to react a certain way or say something...I'd stop and realize that the people on here would definitely hit me with a 2X4, and I would stop myself. It did help me to be very mindful of my actions and words. Lol.
Linda:
First of all, thank you for taking the time to write such a helpful message. So much of what you said today is stuff I needed to hear.
This "letting go" thing is super complicated for me but your thoughts and advice from your coach are good.
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You have to learn to detach from your husband's confusion and let him struggle through it until he sees a clearing.
I'm going to update in a minute about this morning with H because it was all very confusing and all over the place. I need to get it all out of my head! Ugh.
On the intimacy thing, I know I need to get a health check to make sure I'm healthy...but, I did have an interesting conversation with H about ML, that he brought up. I've got lots to think about on that issue.
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Aw Angela, don't fall for it. They are telling you to get a lawyer and leave because they love you and do not want to see you hurt, and because that is the way of the world. I have the greatest respect for you, and for all us Standers. At the end of the day, whether your marriage is reconciled or not, you will be able to look yourself in the eye (in a mirror I guess smile ) and know that you gave your marriage the best you could, and that you tried your hardest.
Thank you for putting my thoughts into words!!! This is exactly how I feel, just nobody in my life understands this. You wrote just how I see it.
