Another option would be to say I hear you saying... vs so you feel.

Otherwise great post GS!

I remember one time I was feeling the same way and I actually asked my W before we talked, right before as we were starting. "Would you like me to just listen or would do you want me to respond"

Remember to breathe and take your time.

M46,W41
D16,D18
M22,T25
BD 11/12
W moved out 01/13
Piecing 10/13
Divorced 01/15
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can."
UrWorthy