Then every time he comes to mind, force him out. As they say, stop giving him free rent in your head.
I know it's not easy, but I think I'm almost there. I'm at the point when I find he rarely comes to mind these days. When he does I force myself to think about anything, even my ever increasing to do list LOL.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks