Not sure where to begin, but I will start with snooping! Always brings out the worst in people! My W went to a concert tonight with a couple of girlfriends. I on the other hand went out with a friend of mine. Alcohol was involved all away around. When I got home with my friend about midnight my W was pretty intoxicated. But coherent and funny. After friend left I was watching football highlights. I hadn't heard from W for 4 hours while she was at show even though at first she was texting with me. I was already in a foul mood because a friend of hers had sent me a pic of them and I noticed she had taken her ring off(wasnt her actual wedding ring, but a ring she put on to "please me" since hers were packed). I didn't say anything as I figured tomorrow was a better time to bring this up. Anyways couple that with the fact I didn't hear from her i decided to check her phone. I saw a text from friend, who was at concert with her, asking where she was. No reply from W. I then looked at photos on phone and boom! Pics of OM at concert sitting with her group at concert! I flipped!! I saw red! I completely flipped. Ran upstairs tuned on lights and went nuts. She wouldn't respond or talk so I flipped the mattress up and her out of bed. She got up a charged me and starting swinging. I grabbed her in a bear hug until she stopped. Then the yellig began. On my old verbal abuse starting spewin out. I called her a lying whore, so on and so on. Like I said I completely lost it. Didn't even give her a chance to tell me what happened. Snooping, verbal abuse, not listening, anger, all the things i worked so hard at over the last 10 months right out the window in moment of rage. Once things settled a litte a began to tell her that I don't see how we can survive this. I told her i don't think I can trust whatever comes out of her mouth about this. I immediately then went and woke her friend up in the guest room. Her friend is friends with OM. I asked her what happens and she said it was funny they got into a fight. Not funny to me. So I got back to wife and say fine tell me what happened. She said he showed up and he ignored for a while. He was on the otherside of he group of the people. After a while she said he came over and tapped her on the back and said hello, she said hello back and gave him a hug. He said to her, "I'm i suppose to just ignore you?" She said, "i don't know. It's all in the past it doesn't matter" She said later on she was going to the bathroom and he followed her. She said he told her there was nothing ever really there. To which she said she doesn't care. He then said just please don't say things behind my back. And she said she hasn't and won't. This was the fight I guess friend thought was funny.
I then asked her about the pictures. She said she doesn't know who took them. She said her phone was just sitting on the ground. Weird coincidence if you ask me. She asked me what did i expect her to do. "Act like high school and just walk away" I said I don't have a problem with how you handled it with him, it's how you handled it with me" I told her, If you would have texted me, "hey OM is here, just wanted to give you a heads up. I'll talk to you about it when I get home" I wouldn't have flipped. Instead I see pictures of him on your phone and text from Friend to you asking where You are. That's where the past comes back and gets me.
Couple with her being drunk and me not hearing from her. Put that all together and it brings up bad thoughts for sure. This will obviously be discussed more in morning, but now I'm exhausted. I really don't know where I stand at this moment again. This is the first time fights got physical and we are working towards reconciliation. Cani trust any if this? Do I ask her to completely cut off friendships? I've become good friends with this couple as well. This is a really sad day for me. Our 6 year anniversary is next Saturday. We moved into new house today. Wow, what a great first night to remember in this house. Sorry for the long post. Had to get it all out
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
