Not sure how short I should go and what color or should i just get highlights put in.right now my hair is a little passed my shoulders. My MIL said that I should just trim my hair and put in highlights only not to go all out like how I dreamed of. I had a dream last night that I had my hair cut like miley Cyrus. And MIL said no way; that H likes long hair not short hair but I'm doing this for me not for him.
You are right - you are doing this for you, not your H. My H is the same, likes long hair. I grew mine long for him despite the fact that I prefer to wear it short, and where did that get me - option B. After he moved out I went and had mine cut in a style similar to Jamie Lee Curtis. H told me more than once that he doesn't like and you know what, that just made me like it even more. I have also coloured my hair in the past as he didn't like the increasing grey highlights. I don't like the effect colouring has on my hair - brittle and really dry and falling out. This time I didn't bother to colour, and did a Jamie Lee Curtis on that as well - she doesn't colour her hair and neither do several other well known Hollywood types.
Decide what you want and do it! Please yourself, not anyone else.
As to your feelings about your H, you are right. You're likely to change your mind several times. I know I have. Don't rush into anything. IMO, he's the one that left, let him file (and have the expense). It's what I fully intend to do - and I've told my H that if he wants the M to be over then its up to him to do it as I won't.
Enjoy your vacation. Make sure you get some "me" time. Keep up your GALing as well. The vacation should do wonders for your PMA.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
