He did not say that he definitely wants a divorce, but rather that he does not know what to do and RT does not understand why it is a hard decision for him to make. She cannot understand why it might be hard for him to leave his wife of 38 years, his best friend and sole support, and to leave his home and family.
Sure, he was feeding her the negative stuff about you, no wonder she doesn’t understand why he has such a hard time making a decision.
Originally Posted By: RosaLinda
He said that RT fell in love with him the first time they talked on skype, and that she only asked him if he had any friends she could pay to marry her so she could get green card and come live here in New York with him.
Oh, yeah, I suppose she whispered him in his ears all this “sweet” stuff, looking sincere and genuine at the same time. I’m not surprised that she can put such an act, she kept him hooked for so long now.
Originally Posted By: RosaLinda
He said the choice he has to make now is whether he should he keep living "half dead" with me or take a chance at "living life" and being happy for the first time in his life with RT. Yet he was unable to tell me what it is he loves about RT besides the fact that he feels her strengths balance his weaknesses.
Oh, give me a break… Really? Happy for the first time? His rose colored glasses are not only thick, but also covered with something that I cannot even think what to name right now. He cannot even see through them, he just assumes things and believes in his fantasy.
Originally Posted By: RosaLinda
It is so hurtful and surreal to think that at age 61, at the time of my life when H and I should be enjoying ourselves, taking trips, going out together, enjoying our grandchildren, we are considering divorce. That I have been financially supporting my sick H for the past 7 years, and now he is thinking of leaving me for a Russian Tramp who only wants a green card.
I am with you on this one. I was the main breadwinner for a number of years, and if not for my income we would not have the vacation home. And now H wants to live there with some Mexican girl, telling her that his marriage was over long time ago. Really, I guess he just put such a brilliant act to keep me believing that we had a future and common dreams together.
Originally Posted By: RosaLinda
I feel as if something inside me has died, or dried up. I no longer feel raw. My heart no longer leaps with joy when I see my H. His words and actions do not hurt me like they used to. Maybe this is detaching. Yet at the same time, I feel much more calm and hopeful that maybe H is starting to peek out of the tunnel a bit, and maybe this horrible replay stage will be winding down soon. And that if I can postpone divorce, we have a good chance at reconciliation.
Well, this maybe what you need to feel right now. I’m glad that you feel more detached. I’ve just had some news that left me scratching my head, and I’m trying to decide if I want to blow it or stay put.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
