It is so good hearing from you. I was just thinking of you the other day and wondered what happened to you and how you were doing.
It sounds like you are in a marvelous place. I've TRIED to think the way you say, but it is still hard sometimes.
My marriage? It wasn't perfect. I know that, but it was a damn good one. I don't really think there are any perfect marriages out there, but some of them, even though not perfect, do last.
....and I will admit that there are a few things that I DO NOT miss about XW.
Like:
The way she used to fly off the handle at our boys. I always thought the was a little too hard on them.
Her drinking. I like my booze, but there were many nights that she would down an entire big bottle of wine by herself.
How she was when she was drunk. She would drink and then pick fights with me or whoever was around.
Getting the Salt and Pepper shakers thrown at me from across the table just because I wanted some on my food.
The way that she took everything so personal. If she was watching a show that I didn't like, she would take it as me not liking HER.
I truly believe looking back that she has been really messed up for longer than I wanted to believe.
I do wonder though: maybe all of the people that we all write about on this board are not really going through a "crisis", but instead suffer from some type of personality disorder. I think we would all agree that our spouses have become the opposite of what they were or somebody completely different.
I'm not where you are at yet, but I'm getting there. I'm a turtle I guess. It takes me longer than most.
Again, soooooo nice to hear from you. I hope you are well and continue to live life the way that YOU want to.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
