Rosa, I love the Keith Urban song and it's so very true that they do think of us.
I'm very sorry that your h is still wearing the rose colored glasses. I still think he's a bit of a nutty buddy in the fact that he described the tart in such a negative way and yet, he thinks he'll find happiness w/her. He's not ready to see her and his situation for what it is...oh, I do agree that if given the chance, she'll take him for everything and most likely leave him in debt. I can't even imagine wanting to leave a nice home and spouse to begin a new w/this type of person and someone he's hardly known...but they do it all of the time.
He's still got some replay to work out, i.e., resolving some issues...but it will take some time to do so. I think that if you make up your mind to do it, you can move forward and leave the door ajar.
Now, Rosa, it's time for you to start focusing on you and what you need to do to enjoy your life. Live your life to the fullest as if he may not return. The Mother Ship has been calling him for quite some time...drop the rope entirely and allow God to have him for a bit. He'll circle the earth many times, but he'll never find another place that is like home. Home is where the heart is and hopefully he will come to realize that before it's too late.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
