We have great memories Bug thank you. Almost still cant believe we were there! Thank you for sharing with me. It means a lot to me.
he went on to say that how we were living at that time was also hurting them. I have to agree with that.
I agree with this and my sitch with my H. What we were three plus years ago was not sustainable. Not fir us and certainly not for our kids.
He wanted to be friendly with me, for the sake of the kids but wanted no R beyond that.
Mindreading....was hard for H to be friendly because he thought it will give me hope. He said after a D we could be friends but not now. Now? The recent niceness freaks me out.. so maybe I need to still work on detachment.
Leaving was painful for him in many ways and he couldn't risk being drawn back in only to have history repeat itself and the kids be hurt all over again.
I can understand this. H has said words that were similar to this.
don't create things in your mind to explain what your H is doing. We don't know what is in their mind. Accepting what is without the story is difficult but it's the only way out.
OK. I see what you are saying. I do let my mind wander still... I try to reign it in....but I do tend to assume the worst...Acc is right in that too. And that is not good for me. I know where it stems from. Its to think the worst so that I am less disappointed with the actual outcome. Well... that has not served me very well has it?
lo.
Its the remnants of the old me...where the emotional controls the rational.
Acceptance is the power.
Thank you Bug and Acc
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
