Taking A Stand; What's my Position?

[Mimi00]

I forgot, he does pay the car insurance even though I have the vehicle.

Stories behind why I gave him money those times:
He was only to be where he is for a travel assignment for a few months, his housing was paid for by the travel company that assigned him, we saved the extra money from not having rent.

A few months later, when he came to visit and BD he spent a lot of the money saved during his 3 week visit as he wasn't working during those weeks. So after BD he wanted to go back to where he was assigned, permanently. So he asked me for $1, 000 to help him cover his groceries bills & expenses during the 2 week wait for his for his next check.

I gave him $600 instead of the full amount.....b/c I don't think he expected me to give him anything, I think he expected the old me who wouldve been too angry/hurt to even speak....so I was DBing, in my mind, by giving him a portion of what he asked for. He has no one to help him but me...his family cant help him financially. So I did feel bad for him as well.

Now that he's decided to stay there and take a permanent position his hosuing is no longer covered.....its a VERY expensive place to live...2 weeks ago he had to put $3, 000 down for rent/deposit/last months rent, to move in to his new apartment. Thats when he hesitently asked for "whatever I could give", Bc he used his whole check that week and the rest of the savings to cover it....so i gave him $50.

He's not the best with money... he didn't have a savings account before we got married and he couldn't stop taking money out of the savings during the marriage.

But now he said he's trying to do better w/ money...again, I assume that's why he took out this policy to try and get back ahead on saving again, quickly replace all he's spent in the last few months...not the best idea in my opinion, but that's how he operates.

I doubt he'd ask for anything else now that he has this money. He should be set as long as no emergencies come up.

I don't think I will ask for any of his policy money, even though he offered.
I will work hard and save to get the things I need....that's who I am.