Wow busting, a lot to catch up on. I'm so happy you and your kids got to have such a great trip. What memories!

I want to share something H told me about making the decision to leave and how hard it was. He said he knew the boys would be hurt but that he had to leave. He was miserable and he could see no way of fixing things from where we stood at that time. Our kids are older and that does make a difference but he went on to say that how we were living at that time was also hurting them. I have to agree with that.

He wanted to be friendly with me, for the sake of the kids but wanted no R beyond that. Leaving was painful for him in many ways and he couldn't risk being drawn back in only to have history repeat itself and the kids be hurt all over again. I'm not trying to be an apologist for WASs, this is just what happened in our lives.

I guess this is relative to Acc's post also, don't create things in your mind to explain what your H is doing. We don't know what is in their mind. Accepting what is without the story is difficult but it's the only way out.

I wish you the best.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss