Well, now my sil, that was crying over cranberries, has unfiended me off of fb......I don't understand. H's other sister, the one that tends to be more even keeled, had too.
Part of me wants to message sil and ask why since we just had a lovely chaf this past Monday. Do you think it's ok to ask?
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, I wouldn't ask her about FB. I still think she knew what her brother was up to and was fishing when she spoke to you.
For now, lay low and just let things be. Blood is thicker than water and until the dust settles, she may opt to stay clear of you until then.
Sit quietly, the answers will come...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
S18 mowed the lawn yesterday but there was tons of grass all over the sidewalks. Tenant, the man H was sure I wanted to have an affair with, said to him to sweep the sicewalks. I should side note that he has not said much to the boys but once in a while when they whine he does make a comment to them but not often. Anyway, S18 picked up all the grass and threw it onto T's car. He was angry but handled it more like you're 19 when you start a job you finish it type conversation. It was fine. Today S18 posted that he was having a hard time speaking English. A girlfriend of mine made a comment yesterday it was math and today it's English. Back to kindergarten. I jokingly said college, kindergarten all the same, no. T commented if you could do that and remember how to use a broom after cuffing the lawn it would be an automatic pass. I laughed I responded. Oh S18 I think you need to sweep the sidewalks babe. Tomorrow?? SIL, who's never met T, comments "T why don't you parent your own kids....."
I've begged T not to respond, he normally would, he won't. I'm so angry. How dare they? They don't know anything about our dynamics. Ohhhhhh H's family!!!
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
H picked up S yesterday afternoon. He seemed agitated about something, I didn't ask. He was very short and curt with me. Later in the evening he texted me twice asking me what I was doing and if I was home. I didn't respond to either question. Then he says "Can't talk to me no more or what?", I responded, "About?", he says "Nothing I guess", "Just small talk", I don't respond, then he says "Still love you no matter what you think, you are the best woman I know, my feelings for you are the same no matter what happens, still love you, that doesn't change overnight". Ugggghhh... I respond, "Tell S I love him, Good Night:.
These are the messages I get every other day. It drives me crazy. Just when I think I can make it through the day without crying, I get those kind of texts.
Going to clean some today and treat myself to dinner and a movie I think. Unless I get invited anywhere (except a wedding, lol).
Coaching session this morning, I'm pretty amped about it, will help keep me grounded today.
Have a great day everyone.
Me-49, H-45 M - 4, Together 9 SS-9 Bomb Dropped - 9/12 Separation - 10/12 Reconcile -2/13 Separation - 8/2013 Reconcile - 10/2013 Separation - 12/2013 Reconcile - 2/14 Separate - 5/14 H Filed D - 8/14
I'm glad he recognizes how awesome you are......but, it must be very hard to wrap your head around what he says and what he does. My H has not said, to me anyway, he does not love me it's a spitting "I don't like you!" Comment. That was made the night he told me he was leaving and has never again commented on his feelings for me.
Be as busy as you can be this weekend. That's the best idea.
Hope your coach has some great suggestions for you!
Have a great day too:)
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
Wow Whiterose, sorry to hear that about your husband. It is very hard to wrap my head around it.
Thanks for the "awesome" comment. This morning he forgot to give me some money he owed, so I went to our lot (business) and he hugged me, I said, what are you doing? He said no matter what I love you and then tried to kiss me, I just took the money and walked away.
He then had S call me and ask if I was going to meet them for lunch, I told S, "No baby, Mom just ate not long ago" H then got on phone and said are you coming? I said "No, not today".
He's been texting all afternoon (I was shopping for skinny girl clothes - have lost 40lbs since last August) and I haven't responded.
Coaching was awesome, she gave me some great tips and advice and also told me whatever I'm doing is obviously working and to keep doing it. Gave me some homework for next session.
Went to visit best friend and she said, OMG, the old Tina is coming back! Made me feel good that I woke up with newfound strength, I actually sang in the shower this morning! LOL
Now, I'm getting ready to go out to eat and have a few drinks with my SIL. She's kinda going through the same thing with my husband's brother. Ironic, seems to happen during a certain season.
Hope you have a great evening.
Me-49, H-45 M - 4, Together 9 SS-9 Bomb Dropped - 9/12 Separation - 10/12 Reconcile -2/13 Separation - 8/2013 Reconcile - 10/2013 Separation - 12/2013 Reconcile - 2/14 Separate - 5/14 H Filed D - 8/14
Good morning Rose. Boy your H's family is as nutzy as he is! Your SIL de-friending you on FaceBook after having such a lovely conversation, and then insulting your friend T is strange behavior. Maybe H told SIL how jealous he is of T, maybe that's why!
Have you heard anything from H about that check you gave him by mistake? I'm sorry you are so worried about money, but it's great that work put you back on today. Although a hike would have been nice too! Do your boys see H when you're working on the weekends?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
So, went out with SIL had a nice dinner and a couple drinks, during dinner H texted me several times, I had forgotten my glasses so had to have SIL read them to me. Basically "Are you in bed?', no reply from me, "You got nothing to say to me?", no reply. Came back home and listened to some upbeat songs on Youtube before retiring to MY bedroom (which I hadn't been able to sleep in for a while). Had a great night's sleep.
This morning he started texting and calling. I've not answered any of them. Just now left me a voice mail that said "I don't know what your problem is, why you can't answer your phone, I guess your bipolar, think your fing cute".
Waiting on several friends to come over and we are having Vegetable beef soup and rolls and Red Velvet Cake!! Yay!!!
Everyone have a good day.
Me-49, H-45 M - 4, Together 9 SS-9 Bomb Dropped - 9/12 Separation - 10/12 Reconcile -2/13 Separation - 8/2013 Reconcile - 10/2013 Separation - 12/2013 Reconcile - 2/14 Separate - 5/14 H Filed D - 8/14
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
This morning he forgot to give me some money he owed, so I went to our lot (business) and he hugged me, I said, what are you doing? He said no matter what I love you and then tried to kiss me, I just took the money and walked away.