Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part V)

[willbwell]

Hi AS, I want your good advice..h asked me how I wanted to get the papers. I told him I did not want to be served. On the one hand, I feel I am making this so easy for him. he is getting what he wants-D. I get nothing of what I want...On the other hand, I have chosen to not be ugly, to act with dignity. Really I am sad for h that he thinks D is the only option. I know I cannot stop him. I do validate and say I am sorry that you feel this way h. We will continue to be in pretty much daily contact due to kids.
My way of moving on is I am taking classes so I can get a job(hopefully!)