Subguy, I'm okay with being normal, I think. It's being average that would bother me!

It's frustrating because the issues we had really weren't that important in the grand scheme of things. We could have compromised and worked through them to have a great marriage.

But xh lives in a fantasy world where marriage shouldn't take any effort and if you have to compromise it means you're not with the right person.

Until he works on his communication and is willing to share his feelings without expecting others to mindread, he isn't going to have a successful relationship, with me or anyone else.

And I am smart enough to have realized that I can't fix him. I can only improve myself. Maybe he'll see my changes and want to work on himself, but I'm not going to sit around and wait for that.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13