The feeling that you won’t get through this will go away. Really embrace the fact that you did the best you could with the knowledge and tools you had at the time. Had you known better, you would have done better. Own only your own stuff, let your spouse own theirs. Your spouse is in a life crisis. It is their journey. Let them walk it. Your job is to get out of the way. Any changes you deem necessary to make have to be real and for you. If they are not, it doesn’t serve you well and doesn’t help the situation. Always act with dignity. Use the feelings of anger you will have as a way to propel you forward. Feel them, and then let them wash over you and let them go. Otherwise it will weigh you down and sap your energy. You may feel you need your spouse, but in reality, you don’t. You want them. There is a difference. Never, ever get in the way of your children’s relationship with their other parent. Your children are looking to you to show them how to navigate through life’s difficulties. What a gift you have been given. Make sure you show them well. This journey is a wonderful opportunity to become the person you were meant to be – the very best you. Forgiveness brings you freedom and peace. And something so important – always remember that you are worthy. No one can take that away – except you.
