Confused about Detaching Part 2

[Pudmuddle]

I don't even know right now, in all this confusion, what the point of DBing is for me. I don't want to reconcile with him.

You haven't found the true point of db'ing. Db'ing is not just about saving a marriage, it's about saving YOURSELF.

I completely understand your pain and anger. Yes it is so MUCH harder when they are at home and you have to stare at them every day.

You are still blaming him for everything, when you had a part to play in this too. Yes he made poor choices, decision or whatever the heck you want to call it. But that was HIS doing, not yours.

DB for you, save you Angela, for your kids and their sanity and safety as well. You are an awesome person or I wouldn't be telling you this straight up.