Hopeful, W didn't have an affair and leave. We split up nearly a year ago. She did not meet or start a relationship with OM until we had been apart for around 6 months. Her decision to leave our marriage was based purely on her own unhappiness. The "affair" she is technically having now, is simply her moving on to the next relationship. It wasn't a contributing factor in our breakup.
I am not sure she is in a "fog". I thought that to be the case early on, but it seems now that she is simply changing her life to better suit her needs. I will probably never know for sure what she thinks or how she feels about all of this, probably wouldn't understand it if I did.
