Luke:

I am a newbie and I have been following your thread among many others here.

I recommend you read "The way of the superior man" by Deida - if you haven't yet.

I think your wife would appreciate you being more manly and this book gives some good advice on simple ways to get there.

M 49, W 49
T28 M26
D19 D17
BD July 1, 2013
Separation agreement signed Oct 15, 2013
Still living together