Most families go through a six month process where the military branch prepares all involved for the challenges to come and also the military person usually goes with a unit, a group of people.
H was called during S1's bday party and told he would have to leave by himself within three weeks. I never had any support or readiness from the usmc or a group of military wives to lean on because he went alone (if he had gone with a unit, I highly doubt he'd get involved with someone there because he is an officer and the other officers would keep tabs on each other)
Apparently they needed H for some job ASAP. However, when H arrived there, there was no job and he just sat somewhere for almost a month until the usmc and NATO to decide on a job for him.
Before H left we were in a state of honeymoon. Lots of sex and sleeping holding each other. H said many times that I was it, that I was his best friend, that this was forever and that we would get through this.
When I was ovulating, I told H. He said, "it's time for us to have another one, anyway. I want them to be close in age"
The H that came back claims he never said those things, that he volunteered to go to escape me and that he wished he would die there just so he wouldn't have to come back home.
