oh Bright, I am sorry if I offended you. I know there are millions of lovely, upstanding Russian women, who would never dream of having an affair with a married man. I even know a couple - my H has had lots of legitimate language partners on the exchange, and some of them have become my good friends, and two even came to New York to visit us.
I think my H has been trolling the language exchange club for likely women who would be up for an online flirtation to boost his ego. When he finds a woman who is in her 50s, divorced or widowed, he sends her his canned speech about being lonely and how wonderful SHE is, and if she bites, well, he's up and running with the rest of it -- how his wife is a b!tch who has been lying and cheating on him for the past 38 years, whom he nobly does not leave for the sake of the children (almost 30 and 40 but hey...), and how wonderful SHE makes him feel. I know this for a fact because I used to be heavily into snooping and used to read his email all the time, and even printed out a lot of them as evidence for my divorce. Just in case. But New York changed to a no-fault state so I don't need evidence. H drops the ones who do flirt with him pretty fast, often within weeks, but the ones who do not fall for his line just remain his friends.
I told him that I think this is despicable and that he is hurting these poor women. In the past he told me it is just a harmless flirtation, and no one gets hurt, and it does not mean anything. I was astonished to hear him say that he is surprised that so many of them take his flirtation seriously, because I warned him.
I also hope H's rose colored glasses fade, and soon! Do you have bright spot light I could shine on RT to make him see her more clearly?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
