Walking Down a Different Street

[RosaLinda]

"My problem is I most definitely would like to hear what she is thinking. All I can see is that she clearly misses some of what we had, but can't commit to working on M yet. She's happy to spend every weekend with me and sometimes more. We chat/text through the day. She wants me to keep recording shows that we can watch together. All of that is fine, but there's always that burning desire to know what she's thinking, doing, planning...."

Oh DMR, I agree with Mr. Bond, don't bring it up. Don't. When she is ready to talk about your marriage, she will. I know exactly what you mean, that you are dying to know what W is thinking, planning. I was just telling Bright that I drive myself nuts observing and trying to analyze my H's every word, gesture, twitch, to try to figure out what he is thinking. Well, he let me know a couple of days ago, and it wasn't pretty

I can see a LOT of movement in your W, a lot of positive movement towards you. She seems to really have changed a lot in her attitude towards you. She did not flip out when she got that email that you had named her OM's phone number "Handyman." (the fact that your phone company sent her that email at all, let alone at 5am, was extremely strange by the way). She wants to spend time with you, to go out for drives and to eat, still wants you to tape her favorite shows. I know you are impatient for your marriage to get back on track, to get better than how it was before, to have her emotionally and physically committed to you. I get that the physical thing is a big part of your frustration. But I am very afraid that if you approach her, you'll scare her off, and drive her way back into that MLC tunnel again. You said it best yourself -- stick to baby steps and don't spook the squirrel

Enjoy the rest of your vacation! Maybe you can find yourself a car, wouldn't that be nice!

PS I am a nurse. Do not ever ever mix up your long and short acting insulins again mister, do you understand me?