Interesting that her DBing (even though she didn't know that's what it was) actually made him hate her, and he just decided in himself to do the right thing.
That's actually EXACTLY what I would have expected to hear from a DB'd reformed WAS. Often the WAS resents the LBS for changing, they say things like "why did you wait until now to change" and "why couldn't you have done this before it was too late". That's why we stress that the changes have to be for YOU, and it's also why we stress that it takes many months before the WAS will even begin to see the changes not as tricks to get them back, but as real and genuine. Regarding the last line, this is why we say it's important to give the WAS time and space, because they are on their own journey and they have to reach the destination by themselves, the LBS cannot help them get there. Basically what your buddy told you is just confirmation of the validity of DB'ing principles.
