yes lol. BTW, H still not turned up to get his post. More arrived today for him. I'm getting anxious that he's going to get angry with me for not letting him know it's here. If I ask my son to tell him, my son will start asking why I'm not texting him. Do I just leave the post and face the music when I next see him? Still not heard from the women's support group, maybe I'll hear next week. And now for the weather report... wet and cold as per normal! Will probably stay in tomorrow and have a movie afternoon with my son We were going to go somewhere on the train, but the cost to get there was extortionate! Got to save some money for some GALing next weekend
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Does the post look important? If yes, just send him a one line text "you've got post".
Typical UK weather for this time of year. We've got rain in the forecast tomorrow but Sunday is supposed to be sunny. Temps are definitely getting cooler though.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
It does look important but I don't want to text him at all! I can't seem to get over this hurdle at the mo.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I get your feelings TTD. Consider which is worse - sending a one line text or having to deal with the toys out of pram tantrum when he eventually finds out about the post.
Send the text, then turn your phone off and don't turn it back on until tomorrow (unless you are expecting anyone else to call you between now and then of course). At least he won't be able to blame you for not telling him about the post.
The other options are to either forward to his new address or return to sender.
You can get over this hurdle TTD. You've got it in to do it .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Text him "what do you want me to do with the mail?"
Compare the downsides. The downside to breaking your no-text rule is not as great as the downside to your not alerting him that he had mail to pick up, in case there is something time sensitive in there. And don't get into the business of trying to figure out if it's important or not, that's his business. That puts you in the clear if he is mad that he didn't pick up the mail and missed something important. That will not prevent him from acting mad at you anyway, but you'll know he's not being reasonable in that case.
My H moved out to a friend's house, did not respond to a couple of requests for the mailing address, and later moved to a room rental in a coworker's house, which seemed more permanent so I asked again for the address in order to forward his mail. The first piece I sent bounced because he had apparently not registered himself with the Post Office, so from then I started sending it to him "c/o Resident," at the address.
This is not pursuit. This is getting his legal mail delivered to him. Take action so you can put your mind to rest about it.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
The thing is TTD... He is a GROWN man. He knows where his mail is, he knows he has not forwarded it yet, he knows it comes to your house.
I say, let it sit. If he gets angry at you for not letting him know, then think of something very db you can say to him. I can't think of what you could say at the mo. He needs to deal with his own issues he is creating.
(p.s. Have you ever watched the bbc show Orphan Black? LOVE that show!)
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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Pud, now you're going to be listing shows that I'll want to investigate and squeeze into my already packed viewing schedule. TTD and NQ are bad enough.
That's a good idea NQ, I'll send him a text then turn my phone off! I never thought of that, lol. Thanks also for your replies all of you It just shows how uptight I've been getting with this new sitch. Pud, sorry I've not heard of the show Orphan Black. I'll google it when I get a chance
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Pud, now you're going to be listing shows that I'll want to investigate and squeeze into my already packed viewing schedule. TTD and NQ are bad enough.
She was invited to join the club, MH. Did you miss that memo LOL
I've not heard of it either so I'm also going to have to look it up on Google.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
That's a good idea NQ, I'll send him a text then turn my phone off! I never thought of that, lol. Thanks also for your replies all of you It just shows how uptight I've been getting with this new sitch. Pud, sorry I've not heard of the show Orphan Black. I'll google it when I get a chance
Now, you just need a deep breath or two, and a large spritzer. Relax!!
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
We were going to go somewhere on the train, but the cost to get there was extortionate! Got to save some money for some GALing next weekend 
(p.s. Have you ever watched the bbc show Orphan Black? LOVE that show!)