Hmm... why must the kids suffer and have to "seperate"/have time apart?
I don't have kids so maybe I'm ignorant on the matter....but letting them still talk and hang out, outside of school, my help them transition better???
frown I dont know..it just made me feel a bit sad for them.

Interesting story about your friends and their seperation...he may have "hated" her for happily moving on and being nice to him and truly believe it was as simply as "waking up"...but I wonder if the wife hadn't confidently walked away and maintained positive behaviors...and instead persued, looked weak ...would it have been so easy to wake up and do the right thing. Either way, I am glad things worked out for them. I wish my H would "wake up and do the right thing" lol

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope