In my opinion asking questions like this at this stage increases the likelihood for conflict and drama. There is already more drama involved in these situations than most of the parties involved can easily tolerate.
GM is right it is better to shift focus to what you are doing than to ask about anything beyond what is needed for the children.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
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