As I started weeding through the spew to figure out what I agreed with that my X said, and what I wanted to change about myself, it became easier to become unstuck.
I did the same, and it was very tough. But you have to start somewhere, right?
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So pick something, anything, and just do it. And see where it leads...
Exactly! The Debbie Ford book I recommended makes it really easy to do this in manageable chunks, and any day of the 365 day year can start now. It made me realize that you don't need a new year's resolution to commit to a new habit or belief system.
Pud, you and I might be geographically close because it snowed here this morning. If I wasn't so busy at work, with so much crap happening that requires my direct intervention, I'd stay home myself. I like being home on snowy days.
So hopefully you can use Cat to propel you to start your own path. I didn't really care about the MLC/WAS distinction - only because the end result was the same and I still needed to turn our ship around to know. We were separated for 2 years before he told me that he wanted to pull the plug and file for D. At that point, I knew that I didn't want to continue to try to make someone love me who wanted out. I figured if we were supposed to be together, it would happen somehow. And just letting things go the way they were supposed to go made both of us happier in the long run.
It's hard. No 2 ways around it. And the only way out is through.
So, Pud, where and when do you want to take the first step?
Good luck-
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
