BOMB WAS DROPPED!! Now What??

[doubledown]

Well, it seems that at least some aspect of reality is beginning to ebb its way into my W brain.

She is realizing how her finances are going to be effected by her decision to leave our M.

After she started her new job, I mentioned that it would be nice if she would contribute to the general expense of operating the household. She stated that she planned to just as soon as she took care of some looming expenses of her own that had piled up.

So, our understanding was she would begin to cut me a check each time she got paid. Well, since then, she dropped the bomb and when I asked for a check last night she wrote out a check for a lesser amount than we had discussed. When I brought it to her attention, she became bothered and silent.

Later, after we put the kids to bed, I asked her if there was something I did to put her in a foul mood. She paused, and said no. She was bothered because a) earlier, she explained why the check was less because she had some expenses she needed to cover and was angry at herself for sharing her personal financial business with me. b) she's realizing that moving forward with her plan is going to effect her significantly financially.

I thought to myself, duh! Of course this is going to effect you financially...emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, socially, as well as your relationship with our kids.

I could sense how quickly she is capable of snapping into the mode of a raving witch as well.

Now I'll need to play this cool and lean toward the "LRT", allowing her to come into her own with regard to how all her brilliant decisions are going to come to fruition and how they will effect her the rest of her eternally happy life, away from me.