She has said that over and over. "It's not you, it's me." "Stop trying to fix me." I didn't get that until I found this community and have truly educated myself about what she's going through. She has threatened to move out or suggested that I do. We own another house down the street that she has mentioned several times. I think she is beyond that now, as she realizes I'm not going anywhere. Never really thought of her as a freeloader, but I guess that's a possible description. I do all the housework, yardwork, now paying all the bills, and definitely doing all the emotional work here. I stay mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted. GAL has really helped. I remove myself for about 1.5 hours every night to walk, run, and workout. Always after I tuck my kids into bed. I will not allow her to drive me away from them. Greatest realization for me was that no matter what happens between me and W, I will always be their Dad.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
