Wife moved out, won't come back home

[newton0]

And thanks to those whose wise and sometimes painful words of wisdom serve as a lighthouse of hope.

Blasting her with negative legal info would have been more of the same, my passive-aggressive toddler behavior that always backfires. I'm so glad I sat on those thoughts a while & finally put them to rest in the garbage pail where they belong.

My underlying fear is that if/when she comes home, what if I revert back to 'normal' behavior and start taking her for granted again/returning back to the place we were; two room-mates living unhappily together. I don't want that to happen, so maybe with sticking with therapy this time (as opposed to stopping when things seem 'ok') we can make it long term by working through issues and building a solid, healthy foundation. It takes work, commitment and growing-up, and I'm kind of scared, but I think she's worth it.