Wife moved out, won't come back home

[newton0]

OK, update. Had another joint therapy session yesterday AM.

I sat close gently rubbing my W's back & generally let the flow occur between her & counselor, which to me seemed a bit topical, but I bit my lip. I've been working on trying to understand how women communicate & relate & see the world. Very different from us guys! We just want to fix things. Counselor said she sees progress, and while W was in the restroom expressed frustration at the slow going. I was told to be patient and patient with myself.

We had a great date that evening & I really focused on listening to her without trying to offer solutions. Just listening. Date ended with the best make-out session to date; I felt like a teenager.

I also told her to go shopping on my dime. She said she needed a pair of boots, and she felt bad because the pair she really liked were expensive. I enjoyed the texts and pictures of her trying boots on, while I did research on Michael Kors. In the end,I told her to buy them and I felt really good to see her happy.

We went out for drinks and a movie tonight & had a fantastic time. I've really taken her for granted and I'm discovering again why I fell in love with her.

I'm simply enjoying the time with her trying to listen, and see that she is happy, which in turn has made me happy.

I feel like we are slowly reconnecting and that feels wonderful.

OK, I did leave with her panties after the movie (Captain Phillips - Tom Hanks did a great job), but I had her consent to do so.

I'm going away this weekend to a dirtbike school, but I will take my relationship books with me. She is coming by the house to spend time with the animals. I am going to give her a gift card to her favorite store as a thank you and an expression of gratitude. I have been too selfish for too long.