Thanks jp! You're right, I have been having anxiety over waiting to have this talk. It has been 10 days since he mentioned wanting to talk again soon. It is stressing me out a bit thinking about how it will play out. You're definitely right to not have any expectations right now and just slow down everything.

Right now I am in a place where I want to move forward, yet I am still kind of protecting myself because i don't want to get hurt again. For us to reconcile and him to move back in he would have to be committed to working on the marriage. And even then, we would likely do what you did. Start dating again and gradually add in him staying on some weekends. I will leave it up to him though and see what his ideas are and let him take the lead.

It's helpful to hear from you since you are slightly ahead of me with your timeline. I had been wondering about how to go about things now that reconciliation is a possibility. I guess the plan is to just gradually re-build the relationship with the help of the counselors.

thanks!
-cp

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.