The View from the Blanket VI

[BrightFuture]

Hi busting, good to hear from you! Thanks for stopping by at my thread. It sounds like you and the kids had a great time on the safari. Good for you!

Yes, there are some similarities in how our H’s started to behave “nicer”. The funny part is that in my case when H asked about how everybody was doing, he started with the dog. It is quite telling that your H wanted to be part of the dog naming. I don’t see his comment as dismissive. I’m pretty sure that he was happy that his suggestion was considered. Congratulations on the puppy, the dogs are great. They teach up unconditional love.

I think your coach is right and there is some shift in your H’s behavior. Obviously he worried about you and the kids while you were on the safari. Also, I think that the way he treats the kids is not because of you. They are old enough, so he could take them on a little vacation or something without you and still have fun with him. I think for him it is still the whole package. And right now he probably doesn’t know how to change his behavior with the kids. The guilt might be part of it too.

I’m sure you will figure it out how to deal with this “nicer” H. My hope is that he will slowly start coming around for the kids.