yup HWA, it is hard to make the decision to move a distance. but you know, I really like that area. W never wanted to move back there when we talked about the possibility of doing so a few times. And honestly I never understood why she felt like that. She never said other than she didnt want to go back there. It doesn't matter either but that did just come to mind.
Anyways,, I know I will be happier there as I still have several friends in the area. Might even look to getting something going in Gatlinburg or Pigeon Forge. Those 2 towns are mountain tourist area's that have always been very appealing to me....
Wow 2old, I found something that is different about us. For me I am moving back to our house, the area we have lived in for 20 years, my boys, my friends, my pastimes. If the W came back, she would have been coming back to all that, plus her family (sister, mother, father and niece).
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I'm planning on staying n/c until thanksgiving then as you stated on HWA's thread maybe just peek out momentarily. That will be 2 months of n/c unless of course she does a surprise email...Or in my case maybe I should just stay n/c for sometime.
If you contact her on her birthday, holidays, and other special events.....don't you think that becomes very predictable? If you "wait" to contact her Thanksgiving, then she's going to expect to hear from you Christmas. So, what do you gain by making the contact? Another rejection? Why would you expect anything else?
You're going back to a beautiful place to live. I can tell you love it! It can be a new chapter for you and the girls. Leave the past where it belongs....in the past. Think new and better and grab life for all you can get every day.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Thank you Sandi...Your words ring true in my ears....Yes, I am excited about going back to those Mts. And yes, as far as my sitch you are right there also. I appreciate your thoughts regarding contact. I do see it does me no good contacting her. I'm tired of being rejected by her to be honest about it.
I am trying hard to quit asking/wondering why. It hasn't been easy as you know but, I am acclamating to life as it is today. And yes, I plan on living life to the fullest with a better me and much better mindset...Things are becoming clearer and clearer as the days pass....
So for the record and to journal some, it was exactly 6 months ago today at this very moment my W and I were on the way to the airport for her "visit" and to attend her granddaughters graduation. Little did I know what the master plan was.
Hi 2old, you moved threads without letting me know I follow threads not people. This is always happening to me so maybe I should start following ppl and not threads Anyway, I've found you again No don't groan! lol. Congrats on getting the job It sounds a lovely place to be I agree with Sandi's post here, to email W and wish her Happy thanksgiving is just predictable. I know you're religious, so all I can say to you is "let go and let God". Tell God that you're going to hand it all to him. I guarantee that your life will improve for the better If God wants your M to be restored, he will do it in his own time. Beware though of temptation Also be careful that you don't take it back off God when you don't want to go in a particular direction, lol. Now go out there to the mountains and GAL
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
TTD, glad you found me. I follow people so figured you and most others did also....Yes, excited about the job and move back to the Mts. It is a beautiful area as Sandi said. Sounds like she has been there. Many people vacation in the area. And yes, I have "let go and let God".. It really is all is up to him anyways. As Sandi also mentioned about the contact, I know. As I stated earlier me making contact with her does nothing and I will not be saying anything more. And now with what little contact she had previously initiated she appears to have gone n/c also.
I'm done peeking out, time to stay quiet time to really GAL!!....
Well done on the n/c, keep it up There's been n/c between either of us this week. I won't speak to him because of how he's treated me and I suppose he just hates me at the mo. We'll see what the weekend brings! As usual I don't plan to wait around for his phone call and if he does ring then I'm going to leave it. I think my phone's going to be on silent for most of the day anyway Have you started packing yet? That's a great GAL activity, especially when you get to declutter at the same time
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I follow threads not people. This is always happening to me so maybe I should start following ppl and not threads 
Also be careful that you don't take it back off God when you don't want to go in a particular direction, lol.