Why do you think she is ready for that R talk? You do remember it's a marathon not a sprint don't you? It must be so frustrating for you getting so far with your W and not progressing any further but being stuck in limbo as it were.
Think how far you have come though. She said she doesn't want to D you now, I would take that as a big step up!
Just carry on doing what you're doing and don't initiate any R talks with her. Let her take the lead.
MH, what's got into you! You know the way it works. Here's a foam 2x4 for you smile Whomp! lol.
I also wouldn't go back to the place where you had your BD, that sounds very depressing. I would try somewhere new, if there's going to be any R in the future, then you need to start afresh and not tread on any old ground. Just my humble opinion smile


H47 me48
T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!