I am sure this isn't a surprise to anyone but she had nothing new to say when I got home. More time; wants to talk to some friends; sees no future together so even though she could end the affair, doesn't see why she should; is afraid any improvements we make to the relationship would just be short-lived; wants a separation instead of a divorce; blah blah blah.
There's a lot of crap in there. My question to you is:
What do you want to do?
Are you confident in your current direction?
I thought this was good so reposting it
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Okay, so you've shown her what she could have in you as her H. But if she thinks she can keep you at bay while she continues with the back & forth game, being the wonderful H won't be enough to save this M. You showed her your changes and she chose to dabble in the A again, so now it's time to respond by showing her a strong, decisive man who will not share his W with another man. That means you won't put up with anymore cr@p. You won't settle for her crumbs, nor her wishy-washy heart. You know what you want....which is a W who wants to be with you and no other man. An open M is a deal breaker for you. If she's unsure about making that decision and keeps having to "think about it", then you should prepare to make some decisions of your own. If you don't, then I think the disrespect for you will rise in her until she has no intentions at all of staying in this MR. Even a WW/WAW will respect a man who who lives by the convictions of his own heart. You can forgive her, but you don't have to continue to live in that situation...while you hope upon hope she will pick you over OM.
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