WR, I think your h has been feeding his attorney a load of bs and because your h is his client, he has to listen and go by what he has said. Some lawyers will push through a divorce, but there are some out there that recognize mlc and will string them along cause both parties to have to pay a lot of money in the long run w/the going back and forth. Your lawyer knows what he's doing and you are paying him dearly for his guidance and advice...let him do the talking and walking for you when it comes to negotiations...but I would advise my lawyer that I do not want this back and forth stuff to go on forever and a day.
As for your S18, I don't blame him...his father is using him. I think your S can handle his discount issue w/his father. If his father continues to bug him about it, I'm sure your S will eventually have to tell him to that the discount is for him and him only since he's the one working there. He might even want to suggest that his father come to work there if he likes the discount that much. LOL!
As for your younger s, I wouldn't say anything at this time. You don't want him to feel like his brother broke his confidence. He does need to feel like he's got someone to talk to.
It's very evident how your sons feel about their father's behavior. It's a shame that eventually they are going to be put on the spot w/him and they are going to tell him like it is. Both of your sons are old enough now to tell their father how they feel and it will be up to the three of them to figure out what kind of relationship they want to have. It may boil down to some or none, but you can't force the issue.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
