"homework" from job - Hi Job, thank you

[Underdog]

Pud,

I think the hardest thing in making any changes to ourselves is figuring out where to begin. And then how to begin. My dad always tells me when I'm overwhelmed that you only eat an elephant one bite at a time. I'm 51 now, and he still tells me this.

Some time ago, I found Debbie Ford. She was an incredible person, speaker and writer who passed away earlier this year from cancer. Her sister is managing her website now, and she's got online classes and books if you want to peruse. One of the gems is The Best Year of Your Life.

The beauty in that book is that you can begin Day 1 now and not wait until the new year to kick start your own path to happiness and self fulfillment.

We used to say here way back when that the best thing to do is to stop rubbernecking at his train wreck and just stay on our own side of the street and keep moving. You'll be a happier and healthier you, no matter what happens.

Great job on the weight loss and getting on track there.

Mach and Cat have done a good job keeping focused on the issue of MLC or no. He's right in that your path is the same regardless. Some people just never get through the MLC process. They stay messed up and just don't feel they have what it takes to heal their own issues. And sometimes they do, but they wind up being completely different people. And some folks are lucky enough to discover that they both want to be different people together (and yes, I'm happy to report that I know 2 such couples who muddled through their own MLCs and wound up together, happy AND healthy).

There are no guarantees. So without them, you have to commit yourself to a plan that guarantees you are not stagnating but growing. You make the changes that matter in the 2nd half of your life. Does that make sense?

It's definitely not for the faint of heart. The good news is that you'll be a role model for your S16. He's at an age where he'll soak up your positive actions and learn from you.

But it's so much easier to do if you start small and then build on your successes.

You can do this.

Betsey