Both of those are judgments based on what's in your head.
By irrational, maybe that's the word I use when she hugs me and says she loves me, and then 5 minutes after I leave, she texts to say, 'That didn't mean anything'. Maybe it's just standard WAW - but it doesn't make sense to me! That's all I meant by the frustration part.
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It seems you have trouble with the patience part.
I think it's a given EVERYONE needs to get off the rollercoaster, I just sort of stink at it.
My problem (and it's MINE, not W) is that I tend to be a black and white kind of guy. If W wants divorce, fine, let's get it done. It won't be my choice or make me happy, but I survived it just fine once and came out better on the other side.
If she DOESN'T want divorce, then let's take some sort of step when she's ready. I don't care if its one step per month - THAT kind of patient I can do. But to just say, "I don't know what to do" drives me crazy. I know that's good old limbo; but it's something I need to get better at handling...
That's all I meant by the frustration part.
