She was supposed to get 53% of it (Galling, but the price of freedom!).
We had to pay some actuary how to divide it which we did...however, according to law, "if it is not specifically stated in the decree that a former spouse gets to be the Survivor Beneficiery, you are free to designate whoever you'd like as the beneficiery"
The divorce negates her previous right to it, as she is no longer my spouse, and IT WAS NOT STATED AT ALL THAT SHE GETS TO BE THE BENEFICIERY IF I TAKE A DIRT NAP.
My new wife is the benficiery at this time, so you can see where the fun begins.
In addition, my middle daughter attempted suicide while at school last year, so that slammed the breaks on everything. (That became yet another horror show with XW)
Here's what I've learned through the wonderous entity called Family Court: EVEN IF IT'S WRITTEN PLAINLY, UNAMBIGUOSLY IN PLAIN BLACK AND WHITE, it still appealable.
Being her usual "Win at All Costs, Scorched Earth" person that she is, you can bet she will appeal this as her divine right. NOTHING IS EVER A LINEAR PROCESS WITH HER, AND IT'S NEVER ABOUT "WHAT IT'S ABOUT"!
Case in point: My decree clearly stated that if she cohabitated, she was no longer eligible for alimony. When she moved in with her paramour, I thought I had hit the jackpot!
When we went to court, she requested $2400/month for three months, because she was "having trouble renting her house".
My attorney (who should have worked for my XW) told me:
"The court will look at whether her conditions have improved by cohabitiating"
When I mentioned she moved in with her boss in a 2.5 million dollar home, my attorney still stated: "You can never be certain where the judge will come down" WTF?
I ended up having to pay her $800 a month for three months while she rented the house on my attorney's advice, so I wouldn't look heartless. By the way, the reason she had difficulty renting it was because she never advertised it until after she got the $800/month!
Bottome line: It cost me $15,000 in legal costs to get what should have been a no-brainer due to her consistent roadblocks; accusations on non re-imbursed medical expenses, not paying for her gas when she took my daughter back to college, on and on...............
Next time, I'll discuss why I haven't seen my son in a month.
Here's the big question: She wanted out of our marriage in the worst of all possible ways, but can't ever go away from me. Why?
