Which is it?
"I get frustrated easily when W is irrational (which is often)"

" except I don't think she's crazy "

Both of those are judgments based on what's in your head. I know we've talked several times about your mindreading which is based on your judgments. Accept that she's confused and she has to work that out. You don't have to do anything.
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What I don't know what to do about is when she calls me and says, "I don't want divorce, but I don't know what to do."
That's not a question, you don't have to answer but you can, and I seem to recall you did, validate that this is confusing for all involved. She didn't ask you to fix anything, or tell her what to do, she was stating her feelings.

It's up to her to sort that out and you can either have patience and wait to see what happens...or not.

It seems you have trouble with the patience part. I say that because you've been ready to quit, move on, get off the coaster about every other day. Your W has no part in that piece, that's for you to figure out.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss