I just don't understand why she's taking so long to do anything if that's what she wants?
It could be that she's not so sure D is the answer herself. If you and the M were really THAT bad, there'd be no hesitation, right?
We all know that it will take plenty of time for our spouses feelings to turn around. Anything that slows the D process gives us more time. More time to be our new selves and show love and compassion. This will naturally will add to their ambivalence.
It's just that it takes so loooooong.
It seems in many of these situations (like mine) the MLC'er is not moving ahead with D. That's why Cadet tells us the key lies with us, and how long can we hold out hope. Tough, I know, but if the option is D, that's not going to be any easier.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
