having re-read my last post, I just wanted to say this experience has changed my reactions to certain situations.
I have a friend who is experiencing some marital problems, nothing this serious I hope, and I have lent her my DB book. But, in the past I would have probably taken her side and told her to give him an ultimatum, or some other push button response. This time I have encouraged her to look at her actions in the situation, and to take a step back to consider before reacting. Tried not to be opinionated, but to encourage her to think about what she wants. I hope it helps her.
I step back much more in general situation and try to think things through calmly and quietly before reacting. To keep my mouth shut until I am sure of what I want to say.
I think it helps me as much as it does my relationships with others.
