"homework" from job - Hi Job, thank you

[Pudmuddle]

Good question Mach1. I know the first time I had EA, and we were having issues, I could have been in MLC. I think my H and I at the time felt we both did this at the same time. Because I did the whole trying to look better, go out with friends all the time, partying thing.

This time, I did the reverse because I knew the above had not worked in the past and really never made me happy. I was withdrawn, secluded, Out of life. I have lost myself in the past 6-7 years because the paths I took, which were complete opposites, neither seemed to work. I didn't know where to turn or what to do to make anything better.

So, yes, that's why I'm back here to find myself again. Because I remember that DB is not just about saving marriages but saving yourself and becoming a better you.

I have LOTS of work to do and I sincerely appreciate the tough questions because they really make me examine myself closer. And I need to. Something I have been afraid to do because it hurts. But I am ready now. So bring it on all of you. I really will reflect and appreciate any and all feedback.