wife hardends heart-4

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There was a power outage yesterday at W's. I spend time with the kids in the dark which proves to be fun. They really like the electronic lamp I bought them last year. W wasn't at home so I waited for her to return before taking my leave. I showed W how to release the automatic gate in case of power failure.

Today, while at W's, she spoke very quietly on the phone and moments later OM delivered a huge power torch light. I guess W really like the idea of being smothered with attention. Something for me to think about, something that was lacking in our M.

Anyway, there is something truly important I would like to have some ideas on. D4 have some revisions to do and I asked her to sit with me. She started to fiddle with the torch light and I took it away because she wasn't paying attention. Well, she cried. She ran to her mom and I told W to ignore her. She ran to MIL and I said the same. Somehow, W got her to stop and D4 began to do some work while W guided her. I have observed this behavior and I think D4 would cry first if she doesn't want to do something and later would rather have someone else to do it with. Just not the person which asked her first.

I shared this with my sis and she proposed that i share some moral stories with D4 and let her understand the consequences of being difficult. I think this is some thing I feel its workable. If my earlier approach fails, and with two non-cooperative W and MIL, then I have to do something else. The ladies in the house just couldn't have crying kids.