etc, If you don' want a divorce, then don't file, especially not not as a "joint filing. Why should you "share the blame" when she's the one that wants out? Also, I don't think it's advisable to have joint representation when it comes to divorce. Each should have their own counsel to protect their respective client's needs. Don't help her...allow her to do the dirty work if she wants it. I would suggest you go ahead and seek legal counsel, but sit on the information.
If you want a divorce, then file...it you don't sit quietly and allow her to do the work. If she continues to push, advise her that this is a major decision and you need time to think about it. If she continues to push, then advise her that you are not going to go along w/her to "share the blame". That she will need to file separately.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
