Then he told me many reasons he is afraid to marry her, including she is a big mouth and argumentative and always has to be right and never takes any blame when she is wrong. She thinks she knows everything, and he keeps catching her in lies or exaggerations. She is pushy and aggressive.
RL,
The above statement could have been made by just about every mlcer that has an ow/om. Most of them don't actually admit it to their spouse/SO. As you may have read on my thread, my h said pretty much the same thing about his ow. The only difference is that he realizes that she is after him for the money, she pretty much told him that on Blow-out #6. All of the negative qualities that RT has are surely going to be magnified as time passes. Don't you wish you could ask them why they'd put up with such nonsense? Unfortunately, they have to learn that on their own. If they didn't have such low self esteem they would realize that those "qualities" are not what makes a marriage last! LOL! Your h is as nutty as the rest.
You did very well with your responses and held your tongue when it was necessary. Sometimes the fact that they can say it out loud to us and we don't fight them on it is enough to slow the process down. Many will threaten and talk about it but drag their feet when it comes to doing anything about it. I pray that your h does the same. The longer that they take to file the better, imho. As we all know, time is on our side.
Take care of yourself and try to find a way to relax so that you can get some rest. We're all here for you whenever you need us. You have an open invitation to join Portia and I in the Night Hawk Club when you can't sleep.
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama
