Hey WH, I'm still here - reading all the threads but I've been away for work, and then low with a flu and headaches that won't go away.
S14 is 15 tomorrow and I've just wrapped his gifts and put up the HB sign on the mantle.
Big strawberry flan ready for his B day breakfast.
No word from XH about coming to see S15 tomorrow - although the phone did just ring at 10pm - when i answered the caller would not speak. Hmmmmm.
Saw Blue Jasmine today. There but for the grace of this forum go I - sitting dishevelled on a park bench having conversations with people who are no longer there.
I'm always following your sitch and thinking of you too.
Honestly, NLW, neither OW nor your X care about anyone else's feelings, especially not yours. They are looking to get your goat. They want a reaction. They are in their own little world. So no, they don't care.
You should have seen the OW in my sitch hanging onto H walking to D's soccer game last weekend. Was she ever putting on a show. That's what they do.
You are sensitive to it, yes, but this man was your husband. The one you thought would never do this to you. Of course it hurts. Of course it's terrible and anyone who says you should not be bothered by it needs to walk a mile in your shoes.
But it isn't real. It's all for show. It doesn't make you feel any better, but it's an act. An emotional ploy. Try to shake it off and see it for what it really is.
Vent away.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
I am sorry NLW. This is senseless and selfish. To me it screams of insecurity. I agree with both WH and BF...it isnt real and I too believe in karma...
My strength to you...
xxx
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Sure makes h look like an a$s before the judge. Dont let him see it bothers you. She's not getting much of a prize, in my book.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
To hear this from others really helps me get past my irritation and hurt.
Sometimes i still can't believe these things are happening. It's like some very bad movie....
But anyway, the weather is warming up here - it's Spring. And there is SO much to do in the garden. My Dad has improved a little in his health. Just generally, there is a lot to be thankful for.
Thanks for being there for me when I needed to vent.
OK, Just recording some classic MLC so that others can see how scripted this process is.
XH rang me twice yesterday - after months of no contact. I didn't answer either call. I was busy.
It was his birthday the next day.
He also called the kids yesterday - after previously hanging up in a high snit on them and refusing contact for about a week.
No mention of the fight he was having with them (he gave S15 a watch for his birthday. S15 already has a watch, however, which XH had forgotten about. He offered to return the watch and give S15 the money. Took the watch and then engineered a fight with S15 and refused to give him the cash. Lied to him about the price of the watch ("It cost $87 on ebay" - when it was patently bought at a prestigious department store (in its signature wrapping). It cost $270).
But I digress... Today, his birthday, I wake up to an email from him.
It's a piece from The Onion - he ALWAYS sent me bits from this that tickled his fancy (and played to our shared understanding of stuff) when we were together. Haven't had one from him for well over a year now.
No accompanying message from him, just a cut and paste and a link to the site.
I had been feeling guilty about not even recognising his bday. And now this.
I'm tempted to say 'master manipulator', but that's really putting too much effort into interpreting his action. Just observing these days.
