No. You put down your utensils, look at her square in the eye and tell her.."W, I don't care to be glared at. It's incredibly rude." To show her you mean business.
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Why do you think you need to go hiding again? It's your home. Start establishing yourself in it. DO NOT start hoarding food just because you don't want to deal with your W.
Please start standing up for yourself. It would be even "sexy" as someone put it to me, just yesterday! Respect is very attractive. You and I need a GOOD healthy dose of it, each!!
One thing that may happen, is your W may take it up a notch before she starts to realize you are no longer a carpet to be walked on. For example, my h has decided to challenge me further when I don't take his crap. I now will need to follow through with my consequences of (hanging up/walking away, etc) as declared I will do!. Look at it like this: a child having a tantrum at the store, kicking and flailing his arms/legs used to get your attention. Now it doesnt anymore. So, the child steps it up a notch and starts banging his head too. You no longer accept the bad behaviours and the child realizes that banging head hurts and the behaviour isn't getting your attention.
As my IC clarifies these to me:
If I tollerate bad behaviour from my h, I will always be subject to it. He will have no reason to treat me differently, why should he? I cater to his bad behaviour. It has become acceptable for him to treat me this way.
Make my needs clear without being controlling or demanding.
Be consistent in my behaviour. Inconsistency will be interpretted as a sign of weakness.
Let me know your thoughts...
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