AS, I thought it took two to tango. I must be doing it wrong. LOL!
Ang, here's the thing about all that. Yes, it was a backslide. Yes, they happen. You shake it off, you move on from it. It will not make or break your sitch.
What he said, they have all said in one form or another - "See, thats why Im leaving."
They need to justify it in their heads. If they cant, then where are they?
It is important, though, to take a look at what stung because there could be valuable info there.
You are angry because you are hurt. All valid feelings. And anger can be used to propel you forward. So it is best to feel it, then let it wash over you. Otherwise it weighs you down and saps your energy. Energy better spent on you.
So, you need to put some plans into place when this kind of stuff happens so you are prepared to deal with it.
What could you do when these discussions escalate and you feel out of control?
How can you react differently? Not for him, for you.
