Sounds like you are being pressured by her into making a quick decision. If you are not sure at this point, I would give it time, at least a few more days to think about it. It is a big decision and you don't want to make a spur of the moment decision based on the fact that she's pressuring you. As you stated above, you are not sure if you feel right about doing what your W suggested. My opinion would be to wait for a bit, and think about the pros and cons and how you feel about everything.
Some things to think about....
Do you have someone close to you that you trust that you could get an opinion or advice from regarding your decision?
Do you feel like you will be willing and able to sit down with your W and calmly discuss all of these small details regarding your separation?
Would you feel more comfortable with your own lawyer?
Either way, do a lot of research and be sure you have a good understanding of your rights and obligations. You may need a legal advisor of some sort. And you can also do some research on your own from the internet, etc. And ask around!
In the end, do what is right for YOU and what you feel works best.
-cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
